How to ignore the bullies

A woman can never be to classy, too caring or too pink… well that’s according to me anyways.

I get judged on my appearance… a lot. Too much.

I love pretty dresses, glitter donuts, (sometimes) think that I am a princess married to my prince and if it’s pink, I’ll take two.

Because I’m marked by so-called society as “cute” and “girly,” people are so easy to judge me. My fellow fashionistas, I’m sure you’ve hard some of these before:

  • You’re such a snob.
  • Looks are so important to you.
  • You’re just in this industry for the glamour and freebies.
  • You think you’re better than us.
  • Just another pretty face.
  • You are so selfish….

And my favourite – she’s so lucky!

(No, I just studied for four years and worked my butt off for five  while paying back my student loan with massive interest. Still paying though. With interest.)

BUT

I say screw this, be you no matter who you choose to be. Just be you.

Appearance doesn’t matter. Size doesn’t matter. Your relationship status doesn’t matter and your background doesn’t matter either. All you should really care about are your morals and beliefs.

Don’t settle for second best.

Don’t be that girl who makes comments about other girls’ weight.

Don’t think you’re better than someone, because of your job status, your outfit or your haircut.

Treat the CEO and the homeless man on the street with the same respect.

Life’s short. Don’t hate.

Don’t hate on people who you think are better off, because everybody have 24 hours in a day and it really depends on you what you are going to do with that.

That Fashion Editor – she might be bipolar. That woman who just got a promotion – she might secretly suffer from major depression. That girl with the perfect body – she might just be exercising and eating healthy.

Nothing in life comes easy. It’s 10% luck, 40% hard work and 40% being nice to other people, trust me on this one.

I am sorry for always preaching, but I can’t stand bullying in the workplace and even amongst friends. It’s something that needs more attention, because it seems to me that bullying changed from mocking the ”fat kid” to trying to break down successful (and happy) women living their best lives.

Stop hating and start supporting – it’s worth it!

If you are being bullied or judged for being you, I would love to hear from you! Send me an email at alwaysanneblog@gmail.com and let’s end this.

There’s nothing more beautiful than women supporting women.

Always, Anne.

xx

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PHOTOGRAPHY by dannic_photography.

The not-so-much perks of being a Fashion Editor

Always Anne fashion blogger

“If you can handle failure, you can handle success!”

I hate it when people say I have the “BEST” job in the world with ”the most amazing perks” and my favourite: “All you do for a living is showing up at fancy events!”

Like, seriously dude?

There’s this saying that the media industry is the toughest one to be in and oh boy, were they right! So, you want my job? Okay, be my guest.

It took me 11 months to find my first internship while I was working as an Au Pair. My 5-day internship turned into two weeks turned into two months… and now it’s 5 years later.

I’ve heard the worst insults you can imagine including remarks about my weight, the way I dress and even my personality. I’ve been bullied, verbally harassed, worked overtime until after midnight and covered numerous events starting at 2AM. I’ve had salary cuts, sat in HR meetings because of false accusations, had to quit my job recently because of people with, let’s just say, really really bad personalities… all while sitting in traffic and attending events after a full day of intense deadlines at work. When you eventually get to the event, you can barely keep your eyes open and oh no, we don’t just have the cake and eat it – events are all about networking and finding new business opportunities for your brand while all eyes on you, because you’re ‘that girl’ from ‘that company’ with ‘that respectable reputation’.

If I had to tell you the situations I have been through (and survived!) you probably won’t even believe me.. and I don’t blame you. Because all that people see are the glitz and the glam, the Instagram posts at events and occasional freebies which in fact just makes up for our little salaries.

BUT.

If you ask me if I would do choose this career again if I had a choice, I would say yes without a blink.

I am madly in love with my profession. I’ve dreamt of having a career in the media and fashion industry before I even started primary school.

You can burn my soul, but you can’t bliss my passion.

I am starting 2017 in a new career with endless opportunities and already my new team feel like family. Will there be drama? Probably. Do I care? Probably not.

If you are also in the industry, just hang in there. Grow a tough skin and always stay true to yourself and your values.

5 years ago my first Magazine Editor told me the secret to success is to work and hard and be nice and since then it became my motto in life.

High five to all my fellow fashionistas in the industry for being fearless females – I salute you and have a sh*t load respect for every single one of you… except if you are a bully, stay far far away.

I’m so excited about what lies ahead for 2017, because the past is in the past and things can only get better from here on.

Always, Anne

xoxo

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Put on you ‘big girl’ shorts

Hold your horsey!

There’s two things in life I’m really scared of – horses and wearing short shorts! Okay, three if you count the fact that I can’t light a fire match to save my life…

YOLO (you only live once) has been my motto for the whole 0f 2016 and I’ve done some crazy things like running a half marathon, moving to the city, starting my own blog, taking up adult “absolute beginners” ballet just to name a few.

Still, nothing freaks me out more than putting my lady thighs in summer’s worst trend ever for curvy girls – short shorts! I’m also really scared to be around horses, so why not plan a styled shoot overcoming both fears? #WINNING 

I booked a trainer for an hour and at first I stood a few metres away, but he gave me pills to feed the horses with and within in a few minutes I actually started to enjoy the whole new scenario.

I got to meet the cutest little horse (with some mental issues I have to add) named Prince who is the most photogenic horse I’ve ever met and we took some great photos together.

If you notice that I’m just giving a small grin, that’s because I was scared AF.

After the shoot I just wanted to buy a horse but then Instagram Husband reminded met that we don’t have space for a horse in our one-bedroom-apartment… But I did go out and bought some fabulous pair of short shorts for summer.

Because hips and all, I’ll going to have the best summer ever.

#MERMAIDTHIGHS 

Yes, that’s a thing.

Always, Anne

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OUTFIT: Edgars Fashion

PHOTOGRAPHER: Colleen Bruintjies

LOCATION: Hout Bay, Cape Town

My first #SecretBox29 from Retail Box

Okay, so everybody who is anybody knows that I’m super obsessed with my hair.

I’m that girl in the grocery aisle quickly checking if my perfect bangs are still, well, perfect.

Retail Hair sent me their Secret Box 29 and I was so excited, because I always hear my fellow fashionistas talking about the secret boxes. When my box arrived, my editor at work got even more excited because she has used these products before while staying in London.

I received a KMS hair hamper including Moist Repair Therapy Treatment (the best!), Tame Frizz Taming Creme, Silk Sheen Styling Creme and their 300ml Hiar Stay Maximum Hold Stay. To be honest, I was a bit disappointed that I did net get the shampoo and conditioner to experience the full range.

WHAT THE PRODUCTS DO:

MOIST REPAIR: Penetrates deeply to reconstruct damaged hair. Strengthens and moisturizes hair after just one use. Just leave in for 3-5 minutes and say hola to healthy summer hair.
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TAME FRIZZ: I live in Bantry Bay about two blocks away from the beach and the frizz situation is real! This product adds definition and style manageability , humidity resistance and provides heat protection. Bonus tip: add to dry hair for extra definition and control.
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SILK SHEEN: I prefer the Tamie Frizz, because KMS use an invisible formula with no product feel. It’s also helps for all-day frizz control and double up as a heat protector.
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HAIR STAY: This on fleek hairspray dries instantly and will never leave your hair feeling sticky and tacky. Ever! The KMS California Hairstay Maximum Hold Spray in blended with pomegranate and pepper also contains UV filter to protect your hair.
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Visit retailbox.co.za for more information.