6 fat shaming myths that should stop

I am not skinny, but I am definitely not fat. And if I was, so what?

My mom and dad blessed me with gorgeous curves, which is also my biggest curse.

In primary school everyone made fun of my booty, but now all those bullies are squatting in the gym to grow one.

I’ve been told that I should get married in a flowy wedding dress, because of my little big hip situation, but then I went and ordered the most figure hugging designer gown and guess what, I looked beautiful AF.

Women with a genetic curvy body have issues that ‘normal size’ or skinny women just never will understand. Or want to understand.

Here’s the 5 biggest fat shaming myths women with curves have to deal with.

1. “But you don’t look like a runner!”

I’ve ran two half marathons and try to get in one 10 kilometre per week. Sometimes I feel depressed and then I don’t exercise for two weeks – sue me.

The amount of people that have questioned my running because of my body shape is shamelessly high. Most people picture a slender athlete with calves for days when they think about a runner, not someone’s whose calve muscle when straight to their thighs.

2. “Don’t worry, we can do it at your pace.”

There’s a lot of hiking trails in Cape Town and people will always tell me that we can do it at my pace. My pace? What do you mean my pace? Just because I have more fat than muscle, does not mean that I am not stronger than you.

Same thing at the gym. You get ‘cute’ girls who does the same ‘cute’ exercises in the gym daily and rarely build muscle, but they never get questioned. I sweat twice as hard in a spinning class, but when  my hips don’t shrink people will give me motivational speeches that I should push harder and harder next time. Bitch, please.

3. “You probably want a bigger size?”

Shopping with someone is the worst. The ‘no booty-army’ will always ask if you would like a size bigger than them. Just because my hip-to-butt-to-hip-to-another-butt ratio is above average, doesn’t mean the rest of my body is as well.

The looks I get when I tell people that I wear a size small top, the disbelief OMG, it’s just too much to handle.

Dear person X, I am a professional stylist, are you? Um, okurrr.

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4. “You are going to fall pregnant so easily.”

I think this is the most offensive one. When you ask them why, they will tell you that skinny girls have more struggles to conceive. Okay, if I don’t count as skinny do you just think that I am fat?

Unless you are a medical professional, please don’t tell me about my future birth journey when so many people of all sizes have issues to conceive. Giving birth is a blessing and my pants size is not going to be the deal breaker, trust me.

5. “Are you on a diet?”

This is now the part where I want to get physical. Curvy ladies, have you ever ordered a salad and then your friends will ask if you if you are on a diet? People always consume when bootyful women order something healthy, they are trying to lose weight.

Okay, so here’s a surprise fact: we actually eat healthy most of the time. I hate greasy foods and alcohol. I avoid white carbs and always snack on carrots and yes, chocolate. Sue me, again.

But I’m not on a diet. Diets are for the birds!

My body is not my only testimony of my healthy lifestyle. I have glowing skin, perfect hair, 100% visual sight, no cholesterol warnings, zero dark circles under my eyes and I’ve never ever had a teeth filling in my life. Why? Because I’m healthy.

6. “How much?”

When a slender woman walks down the street in a skinny jean, little reaction.

When a curvy woman walks down the street in a skinny jean, chaos!

Society still see curvy women in short or tight clothing as ‘easy’ or ‘cheap’ and that annoys the living demons out of me. I rarely wear a bikini to the beach, but in January I felt brave and threw over a second skin dress to cover my lovely lady humps.

A group of men approached me and made sexual comments, which you get used to and learn to ignore over the years, but this time I’ve had enough. I told them my basic human rights and walked straight to the police station. They chose the wrong girl!

Stop judging people based on how God created them. We are all beautiful in our own way. Skinny, curvy, athletic -it doesn’t matter. It’s what is happening on the inside, that is.

Always, Anne

xoxo

 

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Poetry Homeware launch too stylish for words

I love how Poetry just gets women.

This year’s collection was inspired by the very essence of the Poetry woman – eclectic and timeless.

“She takes heed of trends but draws on her own well of life experiences and creativity to curate an effortless look that conveys her signature style in a contemporary way throughout her home. She weaves her own narrative and does so with a keen appreciation of the finer things in life.”

At the recent launch which took place at Botanical Bar in Longmarket Street CBD, we got the opportunity to express our creativity by hand painting coffee mugs while indulging in deliciously prepared dishes inspired by traditional South African dishes and botanicals.

What a stylish affair for such a stylish brand! Thank you Pressroom PR for inviting me.

See more photos of the event below:

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The Poetry Homeware autumn/winter range for 2019 will be available in stores and online from April.

Always, Anne

xoxo

Photography by The Minimale Blogger.

Old Khaki AW19 is what we want

Old Khaki WOWed me at their recent #OldKhakiAW19 launch channeling retro-sport and modern heritage.

The event took place place at Colourlab in Woodstock where media and influencers gathered together to enjoy Old Khaki’s new Autumn/ Winter collection first hand.

You can expect a fresh new take on urban-adapted wardrobe staples that can take you from inner-city vibes to exploring the Stellenbosch Winelands looking 100 percent Instagram-ready.

The AW19 ladieswear range mixes urban casual with contemporary interpretations of iconic 70s and 80s silhouettes. The season begins with a bold palette of cream, rust and emerald on the heritage front; moving onto navy, grey and ochre with a touch of red in the sporting arena.

Showstopper must-haves

  • Animal print knitwear
  • Furry jackets in bomber silhouettes
  • Branded sweat tops
  • Windowpane check jumpsuits
  • Colour-blocking roll necks

 

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Shall we talk denim?

Alongside the core range of Old Khaki skinny and straight-leg styles, a new collection of silhouettes is ready to take centre stage. The standouts being a pinstripe mom jean and a skinny-fit black dungaree. Denim has gone slightly cleaner for winter, with elevated fabrications adding some lustre to the occasion.

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Scarve it up

As always, the Old Khaki man and woman will have everything they need to round off their looks with daring detail.

Ladies’ scarves have been expanded into a beautiful selection of warm-handle versions in plains, checks and colour-blocking, as well as smaller (90 x 90cm) printed poly squares in everything from floral prints and dots, to plains, checks and stripes – ideal as neckerchiefs or for accessorising handbags or hair. 

Pretty pompoms

Beanies are still a wintertime staple for both men and women, with peaks not far behind. The Old Khaki woman can look forward to a beautiful collection of beanies with plenty of pretty pompoms.

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Black leather bags are back…

As for bags, there’s plenty to be excited about. On the ladies’ side, the collection builds on key silhouettes in new colours with touches of sizzle coming through in the round shape, whip-stitched details, as well as the introduction of fabrications such as corduroy and suede in navy, yellow and rust, in the smalls offering. Oh and did we mention the leather belt bag is back? I’m in love with the Lillie Leather Belt Bag, R699 (below).

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The new Old Khaki autumn/winter range will be available in stores and online in April. See more photos from the launch event below.

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Always, Anne

xoxo

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Events | Falke AW19

Falke invited media and influencers to be the first to preview their AW ‘19 collection.

The event was held at The Stack on Tuesday morning. Guests had the opportunity to have a sneak peak of the latest mens and ladies fashion collections, followed by a quick run through of the products by the Falke team. Guests were treated to delicious canapes and drinks while interacting with the product through fun activations where they had a chance to win product. All guests were spoiled with an exclusive goodie bag containing some of the AW `19 collection.

The autumn/winter 2019 Falke range illustrates the wonderful symbiosis between the individual themes and shows their harmonious connection – divided into four trend directions:

  • Mutant Colours
  • Pride of Colours
  • Weightless Colours
  • Block Matching Colours.

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Always, Anne

xoxo

*Photos provided by PRESS ROOM

20 things you didn’t know about me

Life is short, tell your story.

Everyone knows that I’m that girl with the bangs chasing my magazine goals with a skinny cappuccino in the one hand and my pink phone in the other, but did you know that I am actually a big chess nerd who hates yoga? BOOM!

Here’s 20 things you didn’t know about me:

If I wasn’t in the magazine industry, I would have been a concert pianist playing classical masterpieces in Austria, Berlin and Paris.

I’m more obsessed with Bach than Bieber. My favourite piano piece to play to date is Bach’s Prelude & Fugue No.2 in C minor.

I was the primary school chess champion in Grade 1 – yes, I even beat the grade sevens and I’m owning that.

I haven’t worn a bikini to the beach since 2009. #workingonthat

People think my kindness is my weakness, but it’s absolutely my biggest strength.

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My grandmother’s full names are Anna Elizabeth and that’s where Annette came from meaning ‘graceful.’

I ‘published’ my first story when I was five years old. It was about a sheep and a fly having a fight, but still… I even illustrated the cover and asked my mom to make photocopies at school.

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I have never not had a fringe – it’s my identity. Anna Wintour has her straight-cut bob. Annette de Wet’s got the bangs!

The first time I saw my ‘now-husband’ in my life was in the doctor’s waiting room. I saw this guy wearing a blue tie and super polished shoes, looked at my mom who was with me at the time and said: “That’s the guy I’m going to marry!”

I have never smoked a cigarette in my life.

I’m obsessed with Jack Parow and I totally turn into a gangster poppie when listening to him.

I’ve ran two half marathons. And I didn’t die.

In University, I compared every guy I dated to Chuck Bass. I once dated a guy only because he looked and talked like Mister Bass. #donotjudge

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I type 80 words per minute and have the certificate to prove it. #NERD

My brows are naturally black, but my hair is light brown. People think I have ombre highlights and tint my brows regularly, but that’s just the way I was born. I’m old school, – when I wake up I already have eyebrows on.

I hate yoga. I don’t do the slay nor namaslay thing. The only downward dog you’ll find me in is on the couch with coffee – milk, two sweeteners.

One of my goals are to start an anti-bullying platform. I was bullied in grade 8 by my so called “BFF” and ended up with no friends. She would leave “You are fat” sticky notes against my cupboards, turned all my friends against me and spread the worst rumours you can image…. It got to a point where I lost all my self confidence and it literally took me 3-4 years before I was my crazy confident self again. I lost out on soooooooooooo much fun in high school, because of one person.

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I am not an avocado person.

I haven’t coloured or put any chemical products like a brazilian in my hair for 3 and a half years. #VirginHairDoCare

And finally, I absolutely love my life!

Always, Anne

xoxo

PHOTOGRAPHY: Rezaine Desai

OUTFIT: Shirt with slogan – Nicci Boutique | Leggings – Woolworths | Boots – Truworths

LOCATION: Arthurs Road, Sea Point

12 Sex & the City quotes I love

Closet like Carrie and Money like Big!

Like Carrie Bradshaw I live, eat and breath fashion and both of us can’t wear white without spilling…

Fortunately, like Carrie, I also found my Mr. Big and our love is (sorry for the pun) BIG!

I collaborated with 3 bloggers and we did a city themed fashion shoot captured by Roam Free Photography. This has been such an exciting shoot as I got to experience 3 powerful women showing their inner confidence and also their support for other inspiring women with goals and dreams.

ENJOY!

Always, Anne

xoxo

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1 ‘Do any of you have a completely unremarkable friend or maybe a houseplant I could go to dinner with on Saturday night?’ Miranda

2 ‘I will never be the woman with the perfect hair, who can wear white and not spill on it.’ Carrie

3 ‘Don’t play hard to get with a man who’s hard to get.’ Samantha

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4 ‘I couldn’t understand a word she was saying, but I felt I had in my possession all the Italian I’d ever need to know: Dolce, Dolce, Dolce.’ Carrie

5 ‘They say nothing lasts forever; dreams change, trends come and go, but friendships never go out of style.’ Carrie

6 ‘We keep dresses we’ll never wear again, but we throw away our ex-boyfriends.’ Samantha

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7 ‘Could you please not use the F-word in Vera Wang?’ Charlotte

8 ‘I feel the same way about being a bridesmaid as you feel about Botox. Painful and unnecessary.’ Samantha

9 ‘I like my money where I can see it – hanging in my closet.’ Carrie

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10 ‘Abso-f*cking-lutely.’ Mr Big

11 ‘Maybe all men are a drug. Sometimes they bring you down and sometimes, like now, they get you so high.’ Carrie

12 ‘I’m looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-each-other love.’ Carrie

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PHOTOS: Roam Free Photography

LOCATION: Cape Town, CBD

MY DRESS: ZARA

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